When we think about play, we often picture kids running around, using their imagination, and getting a little messy. But play isn’t just for children. In fact, for many adults, play can be just as powerful, maybe even more so.

Sometimes, talking isn’t enough. When an adult client begins to engage in play, something shifts. Play can help adults slow down as there is often less pressure to say the right thing. Instead, the session becomes a place where feelings can be noticed, shaped, and shared in ways that feel natural and intuitive. Play becomes a rhythm they settle into, not something they have to perform or explain.

What Play Might Look Like in Adult Sessions

In virtual therapy, adult clients might interact with a sand tray, arrange charactersin a room, or build something together with their therapist. These actions are not random. They carry meaning, even when they seem simple. A client might place figures far apart to show distance. They might draw a shape or build a scene that mirrors what is going on inside.

These moments help therapists see patterns that are hard to spot in words. They might reveal stuck points, sources of stress, or even strengths the client forgot they had. Play can also make space for relief and laughter, which helps clients feel less guarded and supports the therapeutic alliance.

Why Choice Matters

With PlaySpace,  adult clients are given tools they can choose and use in their own way. Having this sense of choice is especially important when a client has gone through trauma or when they feel vulnerable in therapy.

Therapists don’t need to change everything to use play with adults. Even small steps can make a big difference. Try these ideas:

• Use the sand tray to explore feelings: Ask your client to represent a dilemma or emotional state with miniatures. Encourage them to place figures or objects to represent parts of a situation, like pressure, fear, or hope. 
• Ask curious, open-ended questions: Curiosity doesn’t disappear with age; it just gets quieter. Many adults still wonder, question, and imagine, even if they’ve learned to keep it tucked behind normative ways of expressing themselves. Try gentle prompts like “What stands out to you in this scene?” or “What might this shape remind you of?” These kinds of questions help meaning come forward without pressure.
• Slow things down: Many adults feel unsure about play. That’s okay. Say something like, “It’s normal if this feels different. We’re just exploring together.” Taking time helps build trust and makes space for reflection.
• Build stories together:  For clients who get stuck in their heads or struggle to name feelings, making up a story or using a shared metaphor can help. It lets them speak without having to explain everything directly.

Adults often carry a lot—grief, stress, memories, questions about who they are or who they’re becoming. They may be parents, caregivers, or dealing with health issues. Some things are hard to talk about. That’s where play can gently help.

A scene in the tray, a repeated object, or the way a story ends—all of it can offer clues about what someone is feeling and how they’re trying to heal.

Play won’t solve everything. But it can offer a safe, creative space where people feel seen. And sometimes, that’s exactly what’s needed.

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